Mature Singles in Orange County | 5 Tips to Avoid Heartbreak

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Are you one of the thousands of mature singles in Orange County who’s frustrated with the OC dating scene? Are you tired of getting your heart broken?

Sometimes you never see the end of the relationship coming, while other times, it’s easily avoidable. Unfortunately, some people are just extremely toxic to be with. In that case, there’s not much we can do but pick ourselves up when we’re finally released from their hold. From then on, we can try avoid the frustrations and pain altogether by avoiding toxic partners.

Today, our Orange County matchmakers are going to show you the best ways to avoid heartbreak.

1. Be honest about your expectations.

A lot of the heartache we experience is partly our own fault. We know a lot of people that have Pinterest pages which they regularly update with photos of engagement rings, wedding dresses, the whole nine yards. When we talk to them and ask them if they want to get married soon, they deny it.

Ladies, we’ve got to be honest about our intentions. That’s the only way we can make the type of decisions that will get us the things we want in a relationship. If you keep lying about what you really want, you’ll keep choosing the wrong guys over and over again. From here on out, be open and upfront about your dating and relationship expectations and life goals.

2. Talk about your expectations and deal breakers.

You know the typical relationship scenario: the guy just wants to have fun, while the girl is ready to get married and start a family. These two people need to come clean about what each wants in the relationship. Otherwise, they’re on a collision course.

We know a lot of women are scared that they’ll scare the guy away by letting him know what they want and when they want it. We get it, it’s not easy. But hiding your expectations and deal breakers will only leave you with a broken heart in the end. After all, it’s better to find out you don’t share the same expectations and goals right from the get-go.

3. Be realistic.

The pressure women face to achieve certain milestones in life is too real. We can’t begin to tell you the number of bad relationships we’ve heard people admit to staying in. And for what? The fear of being alone. Many women get married to the wrong guys just because they see the number 30 approaching and worry about settling down. Unfortunately, they live to regret it. It’s okay to want what you want but be flexible about when you will get it.

4. Don’t be intimate too soon.

We find that a lot of heartbreak happens several months into a relationship because that’s when people start to get to know each other well. The problem is that by that time, they’ve developed strong feelings for each other, and what should have been a simple uncoupling turns into a huge heartbreak. We don’t believe sex is a bad thing but introducing it early on is. Our bodies are biologically wired to attach us to a partner for life. Sex is one way our bodies do that. It’s advised to put off having sex until you have built a solid foundation for your relationship.

5. Don’t get swept away by the honeymoon stage.

Sometimes things are better than we ever imagined. When this happens, it’s easy to get carried away. Unfortunately, this rarely ends up well. There will always be bumps along the way. Don’t make big decisions based on infatuation. That low could be right around the corner if you do.

Again referring to the point above, you must take your time and get to know each other. You must build a strong foundation for your relationship so that when the fun and excitement starts to dwindle down, you still have a deep and meaningful connection.

Unfortunately, there’s a lot of heartbreak in dating. But there are ways to combat it. Use these tips from our matchmakers and do what you can to save yourself time and heartache.

Single and ready to turn your love life around? Contact our OC matchmakers today. Let us introduce you to mature singles in Orange County who are fit to date and share long-term compatibility with you. Let us introduce you to the one you’ll share the rest of your life with.

To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!

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